Phases for Succeeding in a Project

There has been a widespread misconception that only successes in a project bring happiness to the performers, therefore, one must work for succeeding by hook or crook. The reality is that only happy persons succeed, and the real happiness is accumulation of small pleasures while working through on something a person loves to do.   

Joy of Working

First of all, always have a project in hand if you want to be habitual in succeeding. This won’t leave your resources like physique, intellect, wealth, etc. superfluous at any time. Secondly, for each project in hand, go through the four phases of it –

1. Assessment

Assess your own situation vis-à-vis the project in hand, particularly your weaknesses wherein you need to gear up and augment your resources. Nobody knows the performer better than the performer him/herself. Therefore, personal assessment works the best, however, suggestions from some professionals or close friends may be sought with an open mind and without feeling any constraints of going by other’s advice.

2. Commitment

Commit yourself for succeeding in the project. In this connection, three points are noteworthy –

1. A person gets easily committed if the project is his/her own brain-child,
2. The project is considered morally right, and 
3. The project involves activities which you love to do.

This means that you should have your own projects which are morally right and align with objectives of your life, and you really like to perform for the project.  Conversely, projects thrust upon a person by others lack commitment of the person.    

Readjustments through feedbacks

No plan or design can be made absolutely right, hence every plan or design needs readjustments based on experience and feedback while implementing the project. Be prepared for such readjustments and don’t feel hurt or guilty about the lapses in the plan or the design.

Here, it is noteworthy that the final result of a project is not as important as the pleasure of working on the project. Therefore, feedbacks must be evaluated with respect to the joy performers may be finding while working on the project.

Some in-between failures should not be reasons for disappointments but as lessons on where a mistake is committed in the performance. No task is defective or unworthy as reason for a failure, it is the performance that may be defective.  

Pursuance

Pursue each project in hand earnest but without reaching the breakdown level of your health or performance. A few points are noteworthy in this connection –

• For optimal working of human brain on an intellectual exercise, an average of 90 minute’s continuous working is adequate. Thereafter, a rest or recreation is desirable.
• In case of a physical activity, an average person can work for 4 hour 30 minute only at a stretch. In such an activity, the person should not reach the limit of exhaustion of all his working energy.

Take things easy, yet for passion for doing them. Adding humor to the work environment makes things easier for the performer.  

Living by Choices with Decisions through Priorities

Life is Beautiful

Human mind works at its best when it is able to implement its own discretion free from external constraints. Maximum and the most critical use of discretion is in decision making which we need to do at each and every step of our lives - in business, in profession, in relationships, in home or while shopping at a market place. Recent researches have established that an average person makes on an average, 217 decisions everyday as regards to his/her foods. 
For reaching the best possible decision in any matter, therefore, the first and the foremost requirement is freedom from constraints. These constraints include personal biases and prejudices.


We make decisions in four ways –

1. An autonomous development through thoughts,
2. Driven by a habit, 
3. For meeting an external demand, and
4. As reaction to some external action

These are ordered with decreasing quality of decisions, with the worst decision triggered by a negative emotion against someone or something else. With such a trigger, stress hormone is released in the body to fight or flight, and the decision is far from being sound.  

Slave of Habit

We all are incessantly bombarded from demands of living and livelihood and we are constrained to respond to them to the best of our abilities. In this case, though we are not charged with negative emotions but the constraint of acting vitiate our decisions to varying degrees depending on an individual’s circumstances. 


Most of us are slaves of habits which keep on triggering our actions – good or bad. Need not to say that under control of bad habits, we surely take wrong decisions to act. Habit of smoking is one such habit spoiling health of many of use all over the globe, particularly in thickly populated countries like India. In fact, habitual actions are results of our conscious decisions but emanate from subconscious level of mind. These involve no decisions. 


The most valuable decisions of a person are those which come out of the brain without much of conscious efforts and without any external compulsions but still have their causes. These are unlike habitual acts involving no decisions, but are really decisions as prelude to some prospective actions. These are results of thoughts developed and matured over time. These are the decisions caused by the person’s choices. 

Bare Natural Life

In my lone yet free lifestyle of the past two decades, I stayed in different cities of India for the physical comforts and conveniences available in urban areas. I enjoyed that period in ways full of pleasures and comforts. Still the contentment, I was searching for, was missing. Gradually, a thought developed in my mind to move to my native backward village and contribute my mite to the development of the area. On arrival, I found most of the people behaving in thoughtless ways, seeking official mercies instead of asking for their legitimate rights. Electricity was available through badly damaged overhead lines with frequent breakdowns and at 50 to 100 volts against a normal of 230 volts. People were happy with it because they were using it in unauthorized way without any legal connections and bills to them. A few telephones in the village used to be out of order for weeks without any complaints by the subscribers. My computer failed to boot up in the village. I began my fight for improvements. In these 10 years of my stay here, some critical things have improved but a lot of things are yet to be improved. Most importantly, ways of thinking of people, not only in my village but of the area, have changed. I think moving to the village has been the wisest decision of my life so far.   


Such decisions are recognized by the following attributes –

Cool Priorities of Life

Every person has some priorities for his/her life, and more a person is thoughtful, better are his/her priorities. These priorities keep on struggling with routine compulsions of the person’s life, and thus keep on pushing the person to decide in favor of themselves leaving behind routine ways of life. Such decisions of the person originate from the choices of the person, are without any compulsions, and hence lead to the best ways of leading a life.
   

Futuristic 

Human brain has no considerations of future but remains driven by the past experiences stored in its memory. Human wisdom concentrates on future through learning from the past experiences. The good decisions are those which focus on future of the person’s life. These futuristic decisions prove to be of life-changing types for the person.   

Add Long-term Value to Life 

All good decisions qualify to add value to life and these could not be those taken under compulsions or for short-term pleasures of life, but seek long-term happiness, underlined by a feeling of contentment rather than routine satisfactions. 

Differentiating Aiming from Targeting

The two words 'aiming' and 'targeting' are often treated as synonyms and these are alternatively used without understanding the difference. Here, I would like to point out that no language has two or more identical synonym words. If similar meaning words are there, they mean differently. 


'Aim' is a subjective word which means it is with respect to the person involved in the process of aiming. 'Target' is an objective oriented word. A terrorist may target to terrorize people through his/her indiscriminate shooting in a crowded place. For this, the terrorist need not to involve him/herself in the process of aiming.  But if some particular person is to be killed by the terrorist, he/she need to aim at the person only.


A target is a large canvas which may include an aimed object. Thus aim is a precise element needing a precise operation and this may be included in a target. Another way of differentiation comes to my mind. A person may shoot thousands of bullets to kill a person or he/she may do so by using just one bullet. The former process shall be called 'targeting' needing no precision while the latter is 'aiming' precisely. 


The process of aiming comes into effect after the target is identified. This way, 'aim' is a verb while 'target' is a noun. A target may be there without or irrespective of the subject but an aim can not exist without reference to the subject person.   

Sorry State of Body Image

Social norms of a good body are highly distorted by advertising media for serving their commercial interests through misguiding people about what real beauty is. There is a need of developing parallel reality forces to counter the media attack on humanity.
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Three Levels of Capability – Competence, Conduct and Creativity

Capability

Word ‘capability’ is a composition of ‘capacity’ and ‘ability’. Out of these, the capacity of the person is in-built into his/her body and mind at the time of its assessment of capacity, while ‘ability’ is acquired by it for enabling itself for an assigned task. So, for acquiring a capability, the person has to be fit in body and mind and has ability to learn. 


Before coming to the main topic of capability, there is one aspect of personality that needs a due consideration, and that aspect is ‘potential’ of the person. It is a prospective word related to what the person may become in future, if moves on a right path with focus on the objective, with the constraint that the objective be set to fall within boundary of the potential of the person. Thus, potential is the maximum a person may achieve.
   

Competence

Competence


Capability of a person is a mix of intellect, competence and skill. The intellect is an intrinsic capability of the person to sense a situation accurately and understand it, competence of the person is his/her capability to deal with a given problem, while the third component of capability – skill, is the person’s capability of physical handling the problem. In a broad way, competence includes both intellect and skill of the person to deal with a certain assignment. Therefore, competence is the first level of capability of a person subject to an assignment. It neither related to the person’s talent in general nor his delivering results for which still higher level capabilities are desirable. 


Character and Conduct

Competence may only be used at work to deliver results if the person has a high level of character to understand his/her responsibilities and duties related to his/her position in the situation and conducts him/herself accordingly. An example of its elucidation may be working of administrative officials of governments in India. There is no doubt about competence of most of them to deal with their responsibilities effectively. But for want of morality in their characters and conducts, they remain negligent to what they are expected of and prove ineffective as far as people are concerned. 


Therefore, competence without a good character of a person is of little value to his/her society. This makes me to put character as the second level of capability of the person. The character of the person makes him passionate about performance on the task in his/her hand. His/her passion for the job works as an intrinsic motivation for him/her to work. 


Creativity

Third capability of a person is his/her creativity which arouses him/her to be innovative at work, solving problems or in new developments. It is a rare yet precious talent, working as the hub of developing human civilization. Yet, creative persons are less productive for their lack of interest in routine jobs while key to productivity are routine and repetitive operations on materials with application of pre-programmed mind but without application of the person’s brain.        

How to Ask for a favour – Art and Science of Persuading

Today morning, I saw a beggar woman at a public place. She is handicapped too, and begging is her source of livelihood. For an article, I wanted to take a photograph of her while she was at work of begging. To show my decency, I asked her whether I could take a photo of hers. She asked me why I wanted to do that, to which I told her that I want to show to the world what people do for survival. She did not allow me to take the photograph. I was hurt at that, and tried to find out why she refused. 

Beggar

I decided to take a photograph of a person under similar conditions of living, and I searched around. In India, there are plenty of beggars and handicapped persons, so I found another handicapped person soon. I approached him and asked for his permission for a photograph. He also asked me the reason. I told him that I want to show to the world what types of problems are faced by people in their survival. He agreed to be photographed. 


Then I analyzed the difference in two approaches of mine in the two cases. In the first case, I said to project her solution for survival, while in the second case, it was the problems he has been facing. The first beggar was not sure whether her solution for survival was right or not and she was fully responsible for what she has been doing. She may be blamed for choosing a wrong way, so she refused to be photographed. Indeed, there may be many alternative ways for a survival. In the second case, I had mentioned that I wanted to project his problems, for which he was not responsible. So, none can blame him for the problem.      


These instances derive a way of persuading a person. A person may be easily persuaded to do a favor if he/she has no fear of getting blamed for his/her. A solution is always subjective to the person inventing and trying the solution, while a problem may be objective without reference to the person concerned. So, the technique of persuading a person for agreeing to something is to eliminate possibility of making him/her accountable. This is important in the art of business management. To elucidate my point, I take another fictitious example. 

For a team leader to ask for an active participation from one of his/her team member in solving a problem, he/she must ask the latter if he/she has any problem in being more actively involved, instead of asking him/her direct why he/she is not active as expected. In the first case, the leader seems to be extending his/her helping hand for solving the latter’s problems if any while in the second case the member is accused of being inactive. 


Self-confidence


Attitude of a person to an inducement depends on his/her self-confidence also. A self-confident person is harder to deviate from his/her line of action than those devoid of self-confidence. A self-confident person needs a boost to his/her confidence to persuade him/her while others look for guidance. 

Self-confident

There may be two ways of winning favour of a self-confident person against his/her wishes. The first one is to kill his self-confidence and make him docile. This way is highly damaging to humanity as self-confidence is always a precious asset of a person, are rare persons have in enough quantity. Concept of God and religions was evolved for this nasty purpose and is still in use for a huge majority. 


The second way of winning favour of a self-confident person is to display to him/her that his/her self-confidence is much appreciated and it would be better utilized with some readjustment. And the persuader may tell his wish in this desired readjustment in the use of the self-confidence. Say, for example, a person is busy in reading a book and you want him to accompany you to the market on a shopping spree. If you ask him/her directly for leaving the book reading and giving you a company, most probably, he/she would refuse. But if you tell him that his book-reading is very valuable for enhancing his knowledge but, at that moment, you wish to make good use of his vast knowledge and experience in shopping in the market. Possibility of the person agreeing to accompany you is high. 


Under such a situation, a religious preacher would tell the busy person that knowledge acquired by a person through sensory organs is all false like a dream and reading the book won’t provide him/her anything with an essence. For gaining a true knowledge, divine grace is essential and that is possible through company of some divinely enlightened person. The purpose would be shake his/her confidence in him/herself and the book-reading to deviate from his/her chosen task.       


Impression of the Persuader

Everyone gathers a true or false impression of every other person he/she comes in contact with. This impression works as a filter on words of the other person, thus determining their impact. The words may appear anything from highly valuable to totally superfluous. Therefore, if you want someone to listen to and agree with you, take care of your impression on the person. The impression often takes a long time for building up, but surely works for a much long time in future. The real and long-lasting impression is made through deeds, with words playing only a supportive role.        

Toxins in Food and their Avoidance

A toxin literally means that intoxicates a person on eating or drinking. But a general meaning of toxin, accepted commonly, is any substance that is harmful to health of the person taking it in any way. 


Rising human population has put heavy pressure on farming community to produce food grains, fruits and vegetables and other edible goods in huge quantities to meet the demand for filling all the bellies. This has lowered quality of foods for their high production using chemicals, commercial interests of food producers, packers and preservers. All these processes add toxins in the food items which are harmful to human-beings, and other forms of life on earth. The situation is so alarming that it has become almost impossible for anybody to find an uncontaminated food item to eat. 


Agricultural Contamination


This way, though most of the human bellies be full every evening, humanity has been pushed  in to the lap of diseases, many of which are fatal or incurable. The main culprits of this type of food poisoning are chemical fertilizers, pesticides and insecticides, preservatives, sugars and artificial colors.    

Use of chemical fertilizers, pesticides and insecticides in agriculture creates vicious cycle that keeps on expanding day by day. Say, with the use of pesticides and insecticides to protect crops from pests and insects, the pests and insects become immune to these chemicals needing stronger and even different chemicals to save the crops, again with the same results. Thus, these chemicals, instead of saving the crops, make their victims stronger to survive under difficult conditions and refuse to get finished by any such methods. 

Similarly, use of chemical fertilizers makes the soil unresponsive to these fertilizers needing more quantity of these to remain fertile. Moreover, chemical fertilizers, pesticides and insecticides kill many beneficial living organisms in the soil, like the earthworms. The earthworms dig deep into the soil to make pores in it and hence absorbent of nitrogen in the air to support plant growth. With these worms dead, the soil becomes dead solid needing more tilling, more water and more fertilizers to keep the crops growing. 


Food Processing Contamination


Artificial colors to make the processed foods attractive, preservatives to increase their shelf-life, artificial flavors and sweetener to make the foods favorable to taste buds are four types of culprits which contaminate natural foods making them harmful to human health. All these things are added by commercial interests in the processed food industry. 


Apart from these, there are other contaminants that get produced during cooking even at home. Caffeine, many carcinogens, nicotine and ashes may get produced during fermentation, roasting, baking, boiling etc processes particularly when these are carried out at high temperatures for speedy cooking. 


Intoxicants


Many foods need fermentation before cooking that may produce alcohol in the food intoxicating the person when he/she takes the food. This may look soothing to the body and calming to the mind, but proves harmful to the health.


Apart from this consumption of intoxicants inadvertently, a great majority of human population intakes tobacco fumes through smoking and juice through chewing, and drink alcohols as a fashion in the beginning which turns into their habits, making them slaves for life. Evil effects of such intoxicants are not much realized in days of youthfulness, but prove disastrous to health as the age advances beyond maturity. At that time, irreparable damage to health is already done, and it becomes too difficult to quit these bad habits.    


External Pollutants


If the air we breathe in, the water we drink, and soil we are in touch with, have traces of pollutants loaded from industrial flues, effluents and solid wastes, these enter our body or infect our eyes, skin and other parts of the body making us sick. 
    
Auto-detoxification of Body


For every new thing entering the body, it reacts in three ways. Firstly, it tries to throw it out in the ways of sneezes, cough, vomiting, urine, etc. if it appears to be harmful immediately. If not, the contaminant gets assimilated in the body and body’s own curative mechanism destroys it in a natural way. For this, the contamination must be in low quantity. Homeopathic treatments work through this process, wherein a contaminant is added to the body as the drug, the body reacts to fight it out and cures the disease in this process. 


However, if the contaminant is high in quantity or frequent, the body recognizes it and adapts it as its regular diet. This prevents the body from immediate display of a disease but in due course, as the contaminant goes on accumulating in the body, it bursts out as a major disease for which external cure becomes necessary.    


Body Fat is the Storehouse of Toxins

Fat in the body stores toxins in itself and prevents the body’s auto detoxification mechanism from getting activated to through them out of the body or neutralize them within the body. When the accumulation becomes too heavy, it appears as a major disease. So, slim bodies are more sensitive to toxins than the fatty ones. Therefore, one way of staying healthy is to avoid body fat from accumulation. It must be burnt on daily basis by swift walking, bicycling, etc.


Precautions to Avoid Toxins in Food

1. Take organic foods as far as possible. Such foods are grown using manures improving fertility of soil and without using synthetic pesticides and insecticides. 
2. Use whole food-grains as far as possible, after soaking them in water and then boiling or steaming. Mixed vegetables may also be taken after steaming. 
3. While baking loaves or meat steaks and hamburgers, avoid blackening of the surface through direct contact with fire. The blackening produces Heterocyclic Amines (HCA) which is found to have link to cancer. 
4. Starch-based foods, such as French Fries, Fried Rice, etc. when cooked at high temperature tend to have high proportion of a cancer-inducing chemical compound Acrylamide. 
5. Alcohol is broken down into Acetaldehyde in the liver which is a Carcinogen. Tobacco smoke too has Carcinogen. Therefore, don’t smoke and don’t take alcoholic drinks, or at least minimize these. 
6. Avoid taking processed foods particularly those having artificial colors, preservatives and sweeteners. Sugar is the greatest culprit for sickness of humanity. 
7. Saturated fats get solidified in blood vessels creating heart and blood pressure problems. So take only unsaturated fats as far as possible. As a general rule, saturated fats get solidified at room temperature. 

Some Musts for Natural Detoxification

• Liberally take cruciferous vegetables such as Broccoli, Cabbage, Brussels sprouts, Mustard stems, etc. These support body’s detoxifying efforts for their containing Glucosinolates which is found to cleans the liver.
• Whole grains and beans have good amount of fiber that binds toxins in the digestive tract and throws them out of the body along with excretion.  
• Antioxidants protect cells from toxic damage, and these are found in Kale, Spinach, Blue berries, and Green tea. 
• And lastly, take adequate quantity of pure water to flush out impurities from the body fast, and keep its natural detoxification efforts working.

Chemistry of Sugars

Sugars are often found in two forms – monosaccharides and disaccharides.

All sugars are carbohydrates with a general chemical formula CH₂O. The most common carbohydrates are starch and cellulose both of which are polysaccharides (also known as polymers), being composed of many monosaccharides and having molecular weights of hundreds of thousands. Building blocks of both of these are sugar glucose. Apart from these, there are disaccharides made from monosaccharides.

Mono-saccharides

Monosaccharides are basic unit of carbohydrates which are biologically very important. These are the simplest of sugars and building blocks of disaccharaides (such as sucrose) and polysaccharides (such as cellulose and starch), but all monosaccharides are not sweet in taste. Three important sweet-tasting monosaccharides are glucose (dextrose), fructose (levulose) and galactose. Monosaccharides are usually colorless, water-soluble and crystalline solids.  

Glucose is the sugar that reaches the blood for providing energy to the body, while fructose is the sugar found in honey, and galactose is the sugar found in milk. All three have the same molecular formula C₆H₁₂O₆ but with different atomic arrangements, hence are structural isomers.

Disaccharides

sucrose

Most of the familiar sugars, such as table sugar (sucrose), milk sugar (lactose), malt sugar (maltose),  are disaccharides with each molecule composed of two monosaccharide molecules linked together. For their simple molecular structures, these are also known as primary disaccharides. These provide sweet taste to foods and quick energy to the body, and for their common availability are referred to as simple sugars, also. These sugars normally don’t create any health problems if not consumed in excess, or when the person has some digestive deficiency related to their digestion in their respective particular ways.

For digestion and absorption in the body, each disaccharide has to be broken into its component monosaccharides. Each disaccharide needs a particular enzyme, called a disaccharidase, to break up into monosaccharides. Usually, these enzymes are readily secreted in the body as soon a person consumes a disaccharide.

Disaccharide                  Component monosaccharide      Required enzyme for breaking up

Table sugar (Sucrose)    Glucose + Fructose                    Sucrase

Milk sugar (Lactose)       Glucose + Galactose                  Lactase

Malt sugar (Maltose)      Glucose + Glucose                     Maltase

Thus, each disaccharide is unique in its digestion process requiring a particular disaccharidase. If the person has deficiency of a particular disaccharidase secretion into his/her intestines in his/her digestion process, the particular disaccharide is not digested by his/her body leading to intolerance of the person to that particular disaccharide. Problem of intolerance to lactose, found in milk and other dairy products, is more common than intolerance to other sugars with the problem occurring more frequently in aged persons.  

When a person consumes a disaccharide for which he/she has intolerance, he/she must consume a source food for the related disaccharidase enzyme for the digestion and absorption of the particular sugar by his/her body. A failure of break up and hence digestion may create digestive and nutritional problems to the person.

What is Willpower and how to Have it

Willpower is the mental discipline against all odds that determines an individual’s conduct in context of a particular matter. This makes willpower a contextual attribute of the person’s mind, for example, leaving or cultivating a particular habit, achieving a goal, etc. Thus, willpower is about making a change, needing determination and enthusiasm, and hence, being energetic.

I need to mention here that needing energy and being energetic are two different things. ‘Needing energy’ means person’s requirement of energy from an external source while ‘being energetic’ means tapping the internal energy to put to use for a particular endeavour. The latter is related to the person’s enthusiasm and courage to do a certain thing. It may not amount to physical energy, but only a boost-up of the person’s morale to face a particular challenge.         

‘Will’ in the word ‘willpower’ stands for something going to happen or being planned to be done in future, thus, making willpower a source of a proposed change. It is generally used to stop bad habits, cultivate good habits, and achieving something desired. For all these things to materialize, three essential ingredients of willpower are self-control, concentration and determination.

Self-control

Human mind is notorious by nature keeping on raising ever-new desires if not controlled consciously by the person him/herself. Respect to social discipline and human morality by the person put some restrains on the mind in a natural way. But these restrains are not enough to support willpower. Well directed conscious control on the conduct of the self to keep aligned with the desired goal is an additional dimension of self-control needed to keep willpower in place and effective. Without such a control on the conduct of the self, the mind keeps on desiring ever new things and shaping the conduct accordingly resulting into diversion of the person’s energies into the ever-new desires without achieving anything substantially.

Perhaps, there would have been a time for humans to just wish something, put some efforts and achieve, as there were no or few competitors for achieving the same goal. With increased human population, increased desires of individuals, naturally available resources have fallen short to meet the demands on them, hence the fierce competition everywhere, ever-ready for everyone for every achievement. Under these conditions of human life, achievements are becoming more difficult everyday than before, requiring more concentration of the desired goal by the desiring individual. 

Concentration

Concentration has a very wide scope in matter of willpower. It is concentration of mind on the goal with one goal at a time, concentration of all the resources on the single goal at the time, and concentration of physical efforts for achieving the goal. It is needless to say the diversion and fragmentation, opponents of concentration, have to be prevented with respect to mind, resources and efforts of the person until the goal is achieved.

Determination

Determination for achieving a goal has two dimensions – the goal has to be achieved and the efforts have to be continued until the goal is achieved. The determination gets a boost if achievement of the proposed goal is morally right in the opinion of the person and he/she is not daunted by in-between obstacles and failures but takes them as lessons on what else is desired of him/her and where he erred.    

5 Tips for keeping the Willpower Intact

A few tips on for the person to keep the willpower in place until the goal is achieved –

One Goal at a Time

As aforesaid, diversion of attention and resources from the goal to other channels proves perilous to willpower and hence to achieving the goal. Therefore, keeping a single goal in focus at a time is essential. Since, pursuing a single endeavour continuously for a long time too is not advisable, some other routine activities may be used for changes in between actions for the endeavor.    

Find the Right Environment

Environment plays an important role in keeping the person in right frame of mind for achieving the goal and in the achievement of the goal. For example, for a health related goal - cleanliness of the surrounding is essential, for achieving a career aspiration - cooperative colleagues and subordinates are essential, for maintaining a healthy loving relationship – congenial social environment is essential. So, either choose a right environment or frame the goal in accordance to the prevailing environment. 

Planning the Endeavor

There are always many ways to do a job under different circumstances, but there is only one optimum way of performing under a given situation. The objective of any planning is to study the situation, find the optimum way accordingly, and then plan the steps and phases of the endeavor. This initial plan must, however, be treated as tentative subject to alterations in accordance to a changed variable. Therefore, a plan must have in-built flexibility and margins for contingencies to be prudent.

Begin with Small steps

As you sip water from a tumbler in small doses of flows, take up the endeavour in small steps not to hurry up but move with steadfastness and stability of mind. This not only reduces burden on your mind, but keeps your enthusiasm up through successes becoming apparent after each step.

This helps you in monitoring your progress too so naturally that you never think of giving up the task but keep on progressing well in a natural way. Monitoring helps in correcting if there is any slip in the process of endeavouring and achieving also.   

Replenishing Resources

As the work progresses, it goes on consuming one’s resources which need to be replenished occasionally and regularly not to hamper the progress at any stage for want of resources. These resources are not only physical and material but psychological too. So, keep bubbling with enthusiasm with enough of needed resources and results there from.

Fighting the Genes to be Happy

Genes are what we inherit from our ancestors, and these can’t be changed in a lifetime but may be made dormant through a cultivated conduct of the opposite type. Life is all about happiness, that comes through a mindset of self-confidence and optimism with these resulting in successes leading to more of happiness. Thus, if someone has pessimistic genes, he/she not get disappointed for what he/she inherited beyond his/her control, but fight it out through improving upon his/her conduct in practical life. Finally, it is the conduct of a person that matters ultimately for him/herself and all others in his society. We may call it a positive mindset as against the natural mindset which may not be desirable in all cases.

Cultivation of a positive mindset is dependent and processed through the following 6 factors of one’s conduct –

1. A true assessment of the self – capacities and capabilities, and the circumstances,
2. Personalized assessment of an endeavor to accept or reject,
3. Having confidence, ‘I can do it’ about the endeavor undertaken,
4. Social interactions with feeling good,
5. Organizing the self through allocation of time for everything that leads to pleasures and overall happiness
6. Organizing the work and going ahead with confidence and pleasure of doing that.

The first step of assessing the self and the circumstances is the most important for taking up endeavors which appear to be feasible for the person. In this context, it is noteworthy that every person tends to overestimate him/herself, and that it is more important to know one’s weaknesses than strengths, not to fall prey to taking up endeavors beyond one’s capacity and capability.

  

The second point of assessing an endeavor is based on the basic fact that everything is not possible to be achieved by everybody for variations in individual capacities and capabilities, and the circumstances at that particular time in that particular context. Leaving an endeavor is not bad in any way, and one should not feel to be weak on this account. But beginning and endeavor without its assessment with respect to the self, and then leaving it unfinished or failing in it are really bad and rob the person of his/her self-confidence.

Once an endeavor is chosen for undertaking, it must be finished with success. Any failures in between must be made use of as lessons for doing better, rather than getting disappointed. Since, the person has assessed the endeavor with respect to the self, it is for him/her to have enough of self-confidence for a successful performance.

Success may provide happiness but it is always transient for the wish of getting more successes, but the happiness surely takes the person to being successful. Happiness provides energy and courage to overcome obstacles on the way through neuro-chemical processes going in the brain when a person is happy.     

Life is a complex mix of so many things including feelings and performances, principally. Many mutually opposite pulls keep on working on the person simultaneously. For example, his/her family may need him/her at a time when there is too much of professional work in hand. Here, this fact must be kept in mind that happiness is the ultimate objective, not the work by itself, and the happiness comes through keeping a balance between every aspect of life, including rest and recreation, work, family and society, etc. This calls for a strategic division of time to serve various aspects of life to keep balance and hence the happiness. A happy person performs much better than a person in distress.

Planning a task, with assessment of possible stumble blocks on the way and ways of their overcoming, is important for achieving success in any endeavor – big or small. But more important than this is love for the performance of the task. Therefore, follow the axiom – ‘do what you love to do, and love what you do’.  

With all these basic precautions, no genetic influence on the person works negatively. For this, the person must wash his/her mind of any inferiority complex of having genetic traits which may lead him/her to failures. Genes shall remain there but will become dormant if the person moves on with tact and confidence.

When an Extra-marital Relationship is Justified

Though having an extra-marital relationship is socially unethical but it becomes necessary for saving individual's health and happiness if he/she is not sexually satisfied with the partner. Breaking a family for this reason proves more harmful to the society. Therefore, extra-marital relationships provide an easy solution.

When an Extra-marital Relationship is Justified:

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